Random observations of a parent at the Children's Museum

I just got back from a trip to the San Jose Children's Discovery Museum. We like the place. It's a fun way to kill 3 hours with a kid. While this is inferior to the one in Houston, which absolutely rocks, it aint any bad. Anyway, as I was watching my toddler do stuff and interact with other kids older and younger, I observed some things worth sharing here.Most kids that end up playing together, almost never hit it off from the start. There is the gentle touch and feel time prior to really hitting it off.My 3 yr old has a thing for well dressed girls. More importantly those with well groomed hair. The hair is a critical gating factor in his approval process. Once approved,  these young ladies are nothing short of worshipped. Dear daughter-in-law from the future, you would be well served to pay good attention to your hair.So there are all these parents watching their kids play with toys and more importantly other kids. When there are these arguments between kids,  are we supposed to interfere. Should we let our kids learn the hard way?. Should we let him a bully or the bullied or should we jump in? Is it part of the learning process that the child learn how to operate with peers or do we use this opportunity to teach?.  In a dog eat dog world, is teaching to share or to be a go-better the right approach?I find that the art sections and project areas are thinly populated by boys. Is this a gender thing? I remember enjoying to paint. If I expect my son to want to like a particular activity and do it a particular way, is it unfair on my son or just a dad being a dad?Children's museums are a feel good place for any parent. You see other parents getting angry, frustrated and tired at the tantrums of their respective little ones. You realise that you are so not alone. With every screaming kid in the hallway, you smile to yourself in contentment. The world is fair after all. And when the worlds of two misbehaving  kids collide, there is an all-knowing nod between their parents. Yes, I understand.At work, we tend to set or be set exacting standards but when the child does even the smallest activity in the museum better than one other, there is an overwhelming sense of pride. Like your kid just won the super bowl MVP. And we are quick to tell it to the kid. Does it help them in confidence when we reinforce even the smallest of achievements or are we just setting them up to think they are truly exceptional when they might not be?Finally, when normal people have kids, do they end up growing to be hyperconscious, paranoid, over-analyzing someone-from-outer-space like me?